I have been an active member of this site for a few years now, off and on. The types of guys I get most of my messages from are either husbands trying to cheat on their wives, couples in poly-friendly relationships, nerds who are very socially awk, and guys looking to apply for a green card. So, yes, I do get a lot of messages but it is not at all an ego boost! Quite the opposite actually, when I'm no longer laughing. Once in awhile, I find someone really cool that makes all the trudging through the sewage worth it. I tried a-list for 6 months, and I have to say it made the process a whole lot easier to be able to see who "likes" me. All the guys who liked me did not show up on my list of visitors, so I wouldn't have come across them otherwise. I have friends who joined and met their now-husbands within their first week on the site; however, the majority of women I know who've tried it have nothing but bad things to say about it and I can see why. Lol. There is no quality control on this site whatsoever, and as a woman you should expect to receive an overwhelming number of sexually explicit and outright creepy messages weekly if not daily. I sometimes wonder if I'm too harsh and give some guys the benefit of the doubt as a result. In rare cases I have been surprised, but for the most part not. Overall, I've had a lot of fun and got a lot of good stories out of it. If you're thinking of giving it a go, be prepared to put some time into it!