I am a widower looking for a mate or friend, and I used dating sites years ago. But after joining OurTime for a month and paying, four days later I received a suspicious flood of "messages" from "members" and then suddenly found I could not use the site. Two emails to OurTime have gone unanswered and I found that my payment was refunded without explanation.
When you consider the millions of dollars that serious users like myself pay in to each dating site every month, words like "incompetence" and "fraud" come quickly to mind, and users have no recourse.