Lindsey S.

My story is probably similar to ones you have heard over and over. I married my college sweetheart right out of school. We both came from strong Christian families with good values, and thought marriage would be natural and easy. I worked for a company that had me on the road 4 days a week, so the beginning of our marriage was fun and easy since each weekend was like a reunion. As time went by, we didnt put much effort it building our connection and just lived our lives as friends.

About 7 years into our marriage, we had twin boys. This rocked our world and changed our lives. I put my whole self into taking care of the babies while my husband worked night shift. It was a very difficult year as we lost our connection. My husband was not getting his emotional needs met at home, and started making a connection with a girl at work. I had no idea it was going on until about 8 months into the emotional affair. When I discovered it, we struggled for 10 months back and forth between working our marriage and giving up before he moved out. Several weeks before he moved out, I discovered Mort Fertel and the Marriage Fitness program. I had tried a couple other gimmicks on the internet along with counseling at church, but nothing was working. When I signed up for the Marriage Fitness e-mails, I was sold after getting the first couple. This program was so much more about building your connection and focusing on the future rather than dwelling on the past hurts. This program changed our lives forever.

After my husband moved out, I began all the practices of Marriage Fitness including the talk charges, touch charges and giving gifts. Those around me thought I was crazy giving him grace and love after he slapped me in the face. His reactions were mostly negative at first, but as I persisted, I think he began to enjoy it. During his time away, his relationship with the girl at work started to grow, but I wouldnt let him forget about his wife and my commitment to him. I was looking back at a blog I started to record my journey and my opening post (which was days after he moved out) read I have faith that God will reconcile us back together and the Marriage Fitness program will be one of the biggest reasons. God has prepared me for this season of my life and I'm trusting him with the outcome. It was because of the Marriage Fitness program that I had this positive perspective.

Well, as the story goes, about 6 months after my husband moved out, I was woken up at 2 AM one morning by him. The fog had lifted and he was home for good. That was 4 years ago and our marriage has never been the same. Once he was home, we both started practicing Marriage Fitness, and Im happy to say we still do our weekly date night and regularly set time aside for us to build our connection. We went on to have another child, and the experience has been polar opposite of how we connected when we had the twins. Our life is so full, and my perspective on marriage has been changed forever thanks to this wonderful program and all of you who make it possible. As I see others in my life struggling in marriage, my first recommendation is always marriage fitness. I will be forever be thankful for this amazing program!