Mary N.

As an experienced and successful attorney, who has specialized in all aspects of family law, protection orders, neglect and dependency cases, juvenile delinquency, performed child and family investigative work and testified as an expert witness in hundreds of cases before the court, worked in criminal law and been the victim of physical and sexual assaults by narcissists, Lisa work has not only helped me in my personal life to overcome my own demons and habits, but it has also helped me in my work realm.

Despite my plethora of experience and education, Lisa's YouTube channel basically saved my life by bringing understanding and clarity to me in a time of immense self-doubt and constant confusion. I have been a narc magnet my entire life. Despite years of abuse and counseling with licensed therapists to work through the negative life experiences that my special narc's have caused me to endure, only one highly educated counselor ever mentioned narcissism to me. My marriage counselor sent me Lisa's video "how the narcissist reacts when they know you've figured them out." This was a game changer for me. I went from constant self-doubt and confusion to utter clarity. Everything made sense. I finally understood what was going on, what I needed to do and what was to come.

I separated from my physically abusive narcissist husband over a year ago. He plead guilty to two charges in two separate criminal actions against him. His constant apologies, promises to change and love bombing will never draw me into his trap ever again now that I have a better understanding of narcissism.
Our story is almost textbook narcissism. He beat me, screamed and cursed at me in front of our children. He was cruel to our children. The bruises and busted hip which required surgery to fix were the easy part of my story. Anyone can look at a bruise and say that's bad. The hard part is the mental, emotional, verbal and sexual abuse.

Honestly, I do not know that I would have ever got away from him except for that first podcast by Lisa. I'd still be self-doubting and confused. My instinct is to forgive, forget, mend and try to make the best with what I have where I am. A narcissist will always use this to entrap and destroy people like me. I'd still be caught in the narcissistic domestic violence cycle if not for Lisa's podcasts.

Because of Lisa, I'm not surprised or confused by any of this. Instead, I have educated myself about narcissism and just expect these situations and actions. There is true freedom in the knowledge contained in Lisa's podcasts.

Lisa may not have a degree, but she has lived all of her life with narcissist's who display certain traits and follow particular patterns. She has more understanding about narcissism than most therapists with degrees. Many therapists or people with psychological degrees do not really work with or understand narcissism.
The bottom line is most people with psychology degrees usually do not help hundreds of thousands of people. Lisa is on the forefront helping people, educating them about narcissism and it's patterns.
Lisa's podcasts did more for me than years of counseling sessions. I survived my trials by listening to podcast after podcast by Lisa, explaining the patterns narcissist follow. My past and my present suddenly made sense. I knew I was not the problem, but I played a roll in this pattern and until I understood the pattern and stopped doubting myself, I'd be forever running circles in some narcissist cycle. When I doubted myself, as my narcissist loved bombed me time and time again, I listened to Lisa's podcasts. I listened until I understood every move my narcissist would make and how he thought. I listened until it became second nature to me. I listened until I was strong enough to stand on my own and stop doubting my reality and myself.

Finally, I stepped away from everything narcissist and just started living again. Lisa helped me through it all. For the first time in my life, I was surrounded by a network of knowledgeable survivors who pointed out my life patterns and I was not alone. Also, I was able to better perform my work as I now understood domestic violence abusers and those cycles better.

A degree without practical knowledge and experience means nothing. What does mean something is taking life experiences and making a difference in other peoples lives with it. This is what Lisa has done on a massive scale and what she offers. I've worked with so many therapists and it was helpful- but none of them helped like Lisa.

Anyway it was not the years of counseling that helped me understand and break the cycle. It was Lisa's podcasts and the knowledge of what a narc is. All the counseling and therapists in the world cannot help you if you are a narc magnet and do not understand what a narc is.