Raymond K.

I want to explain the other bad reviews- When I first got on okcupid or pof the first thing I noticed were a lot of overweight unattractive girls. I mean I can walk down the street and see normal girls but here maybe 95% or so were abnormally ugly. I'm not going to be too picky, whatever, I'll just write people and meet people. There was a normal looking one you would see occasionally. Then when I wrote most women acted very stuck up despite being over weight and unemployed. But all of them acted messed up mentally. I would start a conversation with a woman and it would start half way normal then she would begin insulting me, saying I have mental problems, cussing at me. I didn't do anything to provoke it. This happened over and over again I would just get insulted, told I'm not good enough. Other times a girl would act interested and every time I ask her to meet she never followed through. I get a lot of people who want to know how much money I make, what car I drive and even offer sex for money. A lot of people with weird sexual fetishes, men that had sex change operations. Not a normal person on there. If you find someone that appears to be half way normal, they start cussing you out for no reason a couple days after you start talking to them or refuse to meet.

What I like is that a lot of them will say "you need to impress me" when I first message them. Ok well meet me somewhere. No they want me to somehow impress them via chat. It's all a game to them, they aren't interested in finding a date like a normal person.

So the question here is why is everybody on these sites dysfunctional? The first thing is these dysfunctional people appear to be on every free dating site or most. I mean I see the exact same person on okcupid as on pof. They are online all the time, seemingly day and night online. When I do a search of people 90% of them are the same people that were online the day before- and always the dysfunctional ones. They are always on there chatting with people. I can leave the website and check it out six months or a year later- mostly the same people still on there. These people are socially dysfunctional and have no life so they live on these dating sites. They never pay money for any service though. They are losers in real life and it feels good for them to insult men, hurt other people's feelings etc. Some of the other ones just have social anxiety and not able to meet people in real life so have fake relationships. Other ones are basically hookers.

On the men side almost all of them are "pick up artists" who live on the site their entire lives trying to sleep with as many women as possible. The women most are gold diggers. So the men just lie and say they are rich, ride the bus to meet the woman. Sleep with her (or have a bad date) and then never talk again. The cycle just repeats. It is a place where trashy dysfunctional people hook up.

But why? Why are the normal people missing? I'm getting to that. I wrote on pof "I am looking for a woman of normal height and weight" the next day I can't log in to my profile. Apparently someone complained and I was banned even though I didn't violate any rules. They don't tell you that you are banned you just can't log in.

On Okcupid I wrote a long thing about the dysfunctional behavior. I just told women that I need someone who will meet me for coffee in real life and explained about how most of the men on there are pick up artists and are broke and how they tell women they are rich to sleep with them. I then copied some of the crazy conversations I had to demonstrate the crazy behavior. Suddenly I can't log in.

If you offend the prostitutes, the mental cases, the career "single" women who never find a boyfriend after 20 years of being on the website- you get banned- without warning. But normal people usually don't go around reporting and banning the prostitutes or the crazies. I didn't even know it was possible to ban people. I have better things to do than report people I don't like or who act crazy. But it goes a long way to explaining why everybody on there is dysfunctional.

On the men side the "pick up artist" loser has taken over. They are generally losers in real life who have to post doctorered photos and lie about their income to pick up women. On the female side you have women who are unattractive and somehow like being hit on by 100 fake guys or else so ugly they can't date in real life or else who have serious social anxiety that prevents normal dating. Because they are losers they get really upset by a normal attractive person being on the site and you are likely to get banned. Because okcupid and other sites like it are so poorly managed the normal people have no idea why they are banned (or even that they were banned). They just end up disappearing from the site gestapo style. The sad part is I even paid money for some services and they still bann me without warning even though I didn't break any rules. I don't want back on the site though. It is horribly run.

I advise to join a site where you pay a fee up front and get matches or something. This helps filter out a lot of the people who live on these free sites and cause problems.