FetLife

I used Fetlife for years and some women said they were hit on by older members, kinky interest Group Owners & even some of the Group Moderators when they were underage 😳

Many discussion Group Owners and Moderators create discussion Groups to prey on underage girls, they actually try to break couples up or get them to cheat on their partners and they ban or block other males for absolutely NO REASON just because they don't want any competition 😳

They wrongly terminated my account when my account got hacked they accuses me of hate speech. Then when I asked to apologize to said person and I explained that my account got hacked and I was still banned. They told me that only a $#*! would make such an accusation. I explained to them that I was sorry and I sometime struggle with confrontation because I'm autistic and they told me that my account is still being banned

This website is 100% legit and like Facebook free. But however the women who use this website are either complicated or extremely rude. Even after you report them the website won't to anything about it! All of the women reject me because I have autism! This website needs to change its rules and policies and also most of the women use this websites to see nudes and not hook up!

This site has always been about naked photos of amateur girls and actual local hookups with real people. THAT part was great.

Plus now they are allowing PROSTITUTION!
That's right, they didn't make a big announcement, but new profiles of girls that are selling themselves have popped up at an amazing rate. No hidding, no whisper whisper. Girls saying point blank that if you want to stick in them, all you need to do is pay.
The website has needed this since they banned Backpage!
Kudos to the website owner, Canadian John Baku!

The negatives: Along with the prostitution, have come a plethora of scammers and sellers.
It used to be that 95% of the female profiles were actual girls actually looking to meet.
Now?
About 80% are selling something sexual. You want it, it's probably available:
Photos, videos, worn socks, wet panties, "special cream", paid webcam services, paid Onlyfans accounts, paid Snapchat premium, paid phone services, paid PERSONAL services (see Prostitution above), other bodily fluids in bottles, paid email services ("give me money and I'll message you"), paid private Instagram, paid Cuckold services ("pay me and I'll bang somebody OTHER than you"), paid Fincuck services ("Pay me. Just shut up and pay me so I can get back to banging somebody OTHER than you.") paid Findom services ("Shut up and pay me, B*tch.").

Additionally, many of the female profiles are just flat-out asking for cash (with management approval). You want to give a total stranger some cash? Half the time the "female" profiles are probably run by some overweight dude in a basement somewhere in Vegas, but if you want to whack your weasel as you give some dude your cash, I guess more power to you. These "girls" will take: Venmo, CashApp, Amazon Wishlist ("buy me things and I might say thank you as I wear it/use it/drive it"), Paypal payments (sexual transactions used to be illegal according to Paypal TOS, guess they're cool with it now-yay!), Western Union, and payments throught the US Mail.

If getting scammed, paying for sex and/or sexual attention is your thing, then this is now the site for you.

Bottom line, used to be great. An actual free website where you could meet an actual girl.
Now? Save yourself the hastle, avoid the website, walk up to the next girl you meet on the street, hand her $20 and ask her to kick you dead square in the nuts.

This site is full of attention seeking people. People that complain. Men that think women will just meet offline to bang and suck then off. And full of women that have requests for gifts...cashapp and want you to pay for their only fans. No one is special really. All the naked bodies look the same.

Terrible sire. It's fully of angry people that want to fight. And sex workers. You can't have an opinion. People jump on you, so you get disrespected.

For guys stroking in soiled diapers where the girls list Antarctica as to where they live--- its pure delusional for those that do not want skin to skin contact.

Most of the avatars are nothing or close up of their boner they slapped to life. The site is disgusting

If you like being cornered into using features you don't want, fetlife is for you. They don't allow you to narrow search filters by gender or gender identity, so basically you'd better hope you're bi, pan, or just entirely neutral to seeing genitalia you're unattracted to constantly. They say this is to foster Inclusivity but it makes it nearly impossible to find m4m partners when there are more female users and straight men users on the site by a large proportion that make it hard to find viable profiles. Genuinely in disbelief they think it's smart to force people to look at genitalia against their preference. The app itself while being pretentious in it's design, is useless, crowded with people that spam like content but don't engage, and lots of members that won't meet without asking you to jump through dozens of hoops before meeting. And the app is dated, never loads and always crashes. All in all a terrible, clunky, pretentious experience in fetlife from me.

Only for people (especially women) who want to show off and don't leave their keyboard. Almost noone wants to meet in person. Too many onlyfans accounts and "photographers", messing with the real puprose of a site which is to meet real people up close and personal.

Just a place for couples or ladies to meet ladies or trans.the rest are wrote off as garbage...Don't bother if your a Single guy.

There is nothing more I ca say than Fetlife has become a real joke. It's nothing more than an forum for prostitution

For a site that is supposed to be none judgmental which is why I went here, I get judged over small comments by closed minded stuck up women, this site cares more about it's own profile than actually getting to know people, when I said to one woman you look like fun, instead of giving me the chance I deserve as a human being, I get put down, and told No in a very bullying way, women like most women are very stuck up in their ways, any woman thinks they are going to find a man solely based on looks is closed minded and pathetic, so much for trying to find open minded friends.

There have been a lot of debate about outing people on a website. There are points for and against. one44.net BDSM Social website has opted for the outing option of members on the site to other members using their nickname on the site as the overriding consideration is member safety. Also the site is not driven by profits to keep and grow membership regardless of their motivation for joining.

I stumbled across fetlife and as a 19 year old girl, I'm someone who isn't particularly open about her kinks and fetishes in public or amongst my friends, it seemed like I'd finally found a community I could be open with.

My first attempt at a profile was deleted within a few days by the admins. I later checked my emails to discover a message asking me to send a verification photo of myself with the date/time/username. There was no way I was sending a face photo.

After that I set up a second profile, I included clear body shots of myself holding a piece of scrunched up paper on which I'd written the time and date and my username. I also wrote the same words on parts of my body in lipstick.

Despite clearly writing on my profile that I was interested in talking to people in my local area aged 18-30... I was inundated with messages from mostly much older middleaged men from a variety of different countries. Some messages were rude in tone, others were overly obsequious. Only a couple were worth responding to.

I tried to engage in some public posts, but was promptly shut down by what I can only describe as radical feminist landwhales with I. Q's lower than my age.

I began receiving requests for more photos and videos from people I had never spoken to. I responded to some of these explaining that I was not interested and in response I was met with hostile and disgusting replies (as with a lot of dating sites).

After another week I recieved another email from the fetlife admins asking me to provide a verification photo. I replied to the said admin explaining that I had alreadt provided verification photos on my profile and had he/she looked through my gallery, this would have been clear (I also had a video holding my profile name and the date it was uploaded).

Nevertheless my profile was again deleted and I recieved a very rude message stating that my verification photos were not real. I replied that they clearly were real and sent a subsequent email with a video attached verifying my identity and profile... I received no reply and gave up on fetlife.

If you are a young woman like myself trying to enter the scene, I would strongly advise against fetlife. It's a cesspool of horny middleaged men, obese belligerent women and incompetent admins.

Sincerely

Sarah

I was on the site, they said that my display picture was fake. In my head I am thinking, of course it is fake, my user name is LL-COOL-J and I have a picture of LL COOL J back in the 80s. Why wouldn't you think it is fake?

Anyways, I still had my real pics as private so that any friends could see the real me.

I got an email stating I had to put up a picture with my screen name on it to verify my identity and I was given three days. Since i am not a person to log in often I tried to log in then checked my email but after two days my account was suspended. I e-mailed the "caretakers" that they said three days to correct the situation yet gave me two days and just suspended my account and to this day, weeks later they have not released my account even though i did send a picture verifying my identity within three days.

They don't even follow their own rules. If they don't why should other people.

If I could give a zero I would.

I like the site and the concept. I've been a member for years. Just don't waste your money advertising on here. They will take your money and give you a tiny, worthless ad (that you're responsible for designing)... and offer no results. I never saw such a rip off.

You spend hours developing a profile and uploading personal photos, then the first time you say something one of the "caretakers" don't like, they block you and KEEP your personal pics (this is allowed for in the website Terms of Use). Sooooo, here's what happens to Fetlife Caretakers who act like $#*!s - https://issuu.com/jameshuesmann/docs/dossier_v2

This is very simple... Fetlife caretakers are nonsensical, little dopes with nothing better to do than to pick on someone at midnight. That person was me on the 12th. Said "We need proof you are really the person in your display picture." Okay? Um, yeah that's me and all my pics are me so I guess I'll get up and prove it to you Sam. Took a shot with the date on it and my name and got... "We need to see this picture without it being photoshopped or manipulated by filters." What a joke those turds are that are in that world. $#*! YOU SAM! $#*! YOU FETLIFE! You silly dopes!

My experience was terrible! I am a gay women and was harassed for being gay. I hated it, I recommend if your gay do not join this site bunch of gay bashes with nothing to do but hate on other people. This was my experience on the site I hope others have better luck.

Huge online community for the mature adult. Great for beginners just looking for whats out there. Amazing for the seasoned vet that knows what he/she wants and is looking for others who enjoy/want the same thing.

I love this site because there are a ton of groups and members dedicated to my particular fetish/lifestyle.

Like any forum with heavy member-leadership, there are major pros and cons.

Unless you're looking for a quick hook up, (craigslist is better for that) some effort is needed to get the most out of this site.

I also love that FL encourages real life meetings through safe and sane groups. Most local groups have at least monthly meetings in public 'vanilla' settings like restaurants.

I don't even know how to sum up how amazing this site is. It revolutionized the fetish scene. Think of it like a kinky Facebook, but without any of the evil. Clean site design, awesome functionality, and a real community of people who, for the most part, treat each other with respect and civility. If you're a kinkster and you're not on FetLife, do yourself a favor and make a profile today.

Its a good tool to maybe connect with other fetishists in area, but that is about it.

Incredible array of interests represented here. The site is comprehensive and includes people from a lot of countries. Definitely learned a lot - but it can be a little difficult to find out what is local. I've gone to a dozen or so events from postings here and was pleasantly surprised how nice everyone was. Highly recommended site, it will just a little time to get you head around the whole experience!

This site is friendly, well laid out and educational for those new to the scene, check it out, it costs nothing and the people are friendly.